“The point of marriage is not happiness. The point of marriage is growth.” And “The key to becoming a truly successful couple is to take action and expand your comfort zone.”
How?
For example, “I apply the principles I used in the weight room to my marriage. For example, I used to get anxious when my wife was feeling sad or stressed. And I used to snap at her if I felt attacked or threatened. For over a year I’ve been working to improve myself in this area. I practice self-soothing, taking deep breaths, and thinking before I speak, and giving my wife the benefit of the doubt and trying to understand her perspective when I feel hurt.”