Psychologists’ quick tips on cultivating a loving relationship!
- After the honeymoon phase, make a concerted effort to treat the relationship as a priority. It is not the last thing to tend to after work, kids, school, friends, TV and the dog.
- Have realistic expectations that our partner cannot and will not meet our every single need. No one can.
- Take time to connect and check-in each day, and make date nights a recurring thing.
- Learn to show appreciation and to apologize.
- Don’t let sex go.
- Talk about how the relationship is doing.
- In a thriving relationship, the ratio of positive interactions to negative ones should be, at the very least, 5 to 1. In other words, for every negative interaction (criticism, argument), it should be buffered by 5 positive ones (appreciation, connection). It’s called the “golden ratio.”
- Take time apart.
- Have healthy boundaries.